Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week (February 15–21, 2026)
- Milton Sattler
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Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week (ASAW) takes place each year during the first full week after Valentine’s Day. In 2026, it runs February 15th–21st. The timing is intentional. After a cultural crescendo of romantic messaging, ASAW creates space to affirm a truth I witness regularly in therapy: a meaningful life is not contingent on romantic love.
As a therapist, this week is both professional and personal. Professional, because I support clients across the aromantic spectrum. Personal, because I have seen the quiet relief that comes when someone finally hears: “There is nothing wrong with you.”
What Is Aromanticism?
Aromanticism is a romantic orientation. It describes individuals whose experience of romance diverges from dominant societal norms. This may include:
Experiencing little to no romantic attraction
Feeling indifferent toward romance
Experiencing romance-repulsion
Preferring relationships that are deeply meaningful but non-romantic
Aromanticism exists on a spectrum. Some clients identify as gray-romantic or demiromantic. Some are aromantic and asexual; others are aromantic and allosexual. Romantic orientation and sexual orientation are distinct constructs, and clarifying this distinction is often an important part of therapeutic work.
Aromanticism exists on a spectrum, and it is essential to distinguish romantic orientation (who someone experiences romantic attraction toward) from sexual orientation (who someone experiences sexual attraction toward). These are related but independent constructs. Clarifying that distinction in therapy often reduces confusion and self-doubt.
Below are key identities commonly discussed within the aromantic spectrum:
Aromantic (Aro)
A person who experiences little to no romantic attraction toward others.They may still desire close relationships, companionship, partnership, or sexual connection—just not romantic attraction.
Gray-Romantic (Gray-Aro)
Someone who experiences romantic attraction rarely, weakly, or under very specific circumstances. Their experience falls between aromantic and romantic, and may not follow consistent patterns.
Demiromantic
A person who experiences romantic attraction only after a strong emotional bond has formed. Romantic feelings are not immediate or based on surface-level attraction.
Sexual Orientation in Relation to Aromanticism
Romantic orientation and sexual orientation operate independently. An aromantic person may have any sexual orientation.
Asexual (Ace)
A person who experiences little to no sexual attraction. Someone can be both aromantic and asexual (often called “aroace”), meaning they experience neither romantic nor sexual attraction.
Allosexual
A term for individuals who do experience sexual attraction. An aromantic allosexual person may experience sexual attraction but not romantic attraction.
Aromantic flag
The aromantic flag—dark green, light green, white, grey, and black—symbolises this spectrum:
Green tones for aromantic identities
White for platonic and queerplatonic relationships
Grey for gray-aromantic identities
Black for sexuality
The Clinical Reality: What Aromantic Clients Bring Into Therapy
When aromantic clients enter therapy, they rarely present saying, “I’m aromantic and that’s the issue.” More often, the presenting concerns are shaped by amato-normativity—the pervasive societal assumption that everyone seeks, prioritises, and benefits most from romantic partnership.
Here are themes I frequently encounter:
1. “There Must Be Something Wrong With Me.”
This is one of the most common beliefs aromantic clients bring into therapy.
After years of trying to “feel” what others seem to feel—forcing crushes, staying in misaligned relationships, performing romantic enthusiasm—they often conclude they’re defective. Cultural messaging reinforces this: romance is framed as universal, necessary, and central to adulthood.
In therapy, we gently separate romantic orientation from attachment style, trauma, or emotional capacity. Many clients have deep, secure bonds—they simply don’t experience romantic attraction.
When aromanticism is understood as a valid orientation rather than a problem to fix, the work shifts from self-correction to self-acceptance. That shift alone can be profoundly stabilising.
2. Social Alienation
Valentine’s season can intensify feelings of exclusion. Clients describe workplace conversations, family expectations, and media saturation reinforcing the idea that romance equals adulthood.
We explore:
Differentiating personal desire from cultural pressure
Boundary-setting with family
Reframing milestones beyond romantic partnership
3. Friendship as Central Attachment
Aromantic clients often prioritise friendships as primary bonds. However, society frequently devalues non-romantic attachment.
In sessions, we:
Validate platonic intimacy as legitimate attachment
Explore queerplatonic partnerships where relevant
Develop communication tools for negotiating relational expectations
4. Intersectional Complexity
Aromantic identity intersects with gender, sexuality, culture, and religion. For some clients, cultural narratives about marriage intensify distress. Therapy must remain culturally attuned and affirming.
How Therapy Can Help
When someone questions whether their lack of romantic attraction means they are emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or traumatised, therapy becomes a space for careful differentiation rather than assumption.
A key part of the work involves exploring relational history with nuance. We look for patterns:
Are there strong, meaningful platonic bonds?
Is emotional intimacy present outside romantic contexts?
Is distress coming from internal experience—or from external expectations?
Often, no trauma-based origin or attachment pathology emerges. Instead, there is consistency: deep care for others, discomfort with romantic scripts, and relief when not performing romance.
When the concept of aromanticism is introduced and resonates, the therapeutic focus shifts. The goal is no longer “fixing” a presumed deficit. It becomes self-alignment.
Therapy can support this process by helping clients:
Release internalised guilt or shame
Rebuild identity around authentic orientation
Develop language to communicate relational needs clearly
Establish boundaries in romantic and non-romantic relationships
Construct a life organised around values rather than expectation
The movement from self-correction to self-understanding is not minor. It often reduces anxiety, strengthens self-trust, and allows relationships—of all kinds—to become more intentional and sustainable.
Why ASAW Matters in Clinical Spaces
Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week is not just symbolic. It challenges:
The equation of romance with psychological health
The assumption that lack of romantic desire indicates avoidance or trauma
The hierarchy that places romantic relationships above all others
For therapists, ASAW is a reminder to examine our own biases. Do we inadvertently prioritise couplehood in treatment goals? Do we assume loneliness equates to singleness?
Affirming aromantic clients requires:
Competence in LGBTQ+ affirmative practice
Understanding romantic orientation as distinct from attachment style
Actively validating non-romantic life paths
Reframing Fulfilment
One of the most powerful therapeutic interventions is helping clients construct values-based lives independent of romance. We explore:
Creative pursuits
Community belonging
Chosen family
Intellectual intimacy
Activism
Autonomy
Success and happiness are not synonymous with partnership. A life organised around authenticity is psychologically protective.
If You’re Aromantic and Reading This
You are not delayed. You are not emotionally stunted. You are not secretly traumatised because you do not crave romance.
You are oriented differently.
And difference is not deficiency.
Moving Forward This ASAW (February 15–21, 2026)
Share educational resources.
Reflect on how you conceptualise love.
If you’re a clinician, review your intake forms—do they presume romantic goals?
Most importantly: widen the definition of connection.
In my practice, I have learned this repeatedly—when we remove the pressure to conform to romantic narratives, clients often flourish. Identity clarity reduces anxiety. Authenticity reduces shame.
Aromantic lives are not lesser stories. They are simply written with a different plot.
Use hashtags like #ASAW to amplify voices.
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